When I held Nisha’s hand with a vice like grip it was to stop her from biting her hands off. No, not in the literal sense of course, but she was stressed enough to bite her non-existent finger nails to extinction. Reason? STRESS; yes the six letter horrible word that every employee these days is so well acquainted with.
The reasons and effects of STRESS have been spoken about ad-nauseum, that, I assure you this blog will not at all STRESS upon the word STRESS. So,“What exactly was Nisha so stressed about?” It turns out she attended an interview and she was waiting for the results. I groaned inwardly, shuddering at that memory. Who has not experienced the heart wrenching, stomach curdling, excruciatingly long, waiting period after you give an interview? (Yes, I am breaking every rule in the Technical writing book, writing wordy sentences, but this occasion demands these adjectives, believe me)
I abruptly left her, knowing this is going to be a very long discussion. Got a hot cuppa,came back to find her still fiddling with her ridiculously small hands. In a last bid to save her hands hastily I placed the cup in her palms.Enlivened she burst out saying “I have still not heard from them, what do I do?” I automatically answered “You wait” , realized I am not really helping her, all the while thinking to myself: “How can we fast forward time?”, “How can we assuredly get things that we so desperately want?” Most important, “How to teach ourselves to be patient and calm during such stressful situations?”
I have been through this before, why even Nisha has been through this before but the feeling never gets stale, it hits us in a wave and leaves us breathless. This waiting period is always hard, much harder than rejection. I personally feel getting rejected on the spot is far better than getting rejected after a week. At least you get to move on after the rejection, the hurt will be the same but it will heal faster, right?
On that note, my top tips for helping you through this hard period of waiting are: Continue reading →
The major source of discontentment in today’s job scenario is:
- Not knowing what you want
- Not prioritizing the things you want
- Being complacent towards achieving what you want
I get inspired when I meet the rare person who is happy with the job he is in. He does his job with total dedication, he gets the pay he thinks he deserves and he is in a position he thinks he should be in. The one thing I ask such a person is: “What’s your secret?“, almost always the answer is: ‘Passion and Contentment‘.
Contentment is a virtue. It is very hard to be content in today’s world. Contentment is not a natural state. Like meditation you need to practice it. Does contentment mean you have to stop having ambitions? Does it mean you stop trying to achieve? No, it just means you need to give a logical pause between each achievement to retrospect. How else will you realize how much you have achieved and how much more you can achieve?
Note: Failure is also a pause albeit a literal one.Very hard to ignore, unlike contentment, but equally necessary for growth.
Contentment is like the period in a sentence. It makes the statements of your life precise and meaningful. It lets you know when to stop something and when to begin something. It lets you know when something has reached its logical conclusion. A person who is content always tries to see the positives of any situation and tries to get the best out of it.
On that note, lets proceed to the : ” 3 Must-dos before you even think of quitting your job or your career”