How two kids and a bean bag gave me the best lesson in happiness!

Have you ever wondered how kids can be so happy for no reason? Yes, no reason at all!

The other day it was great celebration in our household when we got the one thing we have wanted for a very long time (no, not a dog, though that’s still on the top of the list), a bean bag!!!


Now traditionally bean bag is just a thing to sit on right? Yes , i thought so too , but my kids turned that notion literally over its head when they turned the simple bean bag into a wonderful happiness machine. How? Let me give you a few examples of how the bean bag gets “utilized”:

  • The Game of Turtles – I hear a voice calling out to me from under the bean bag. I go near it and suddenly the head of my child pops out and shouts “ma , look i am a turtle!!!”. I burst out laughing, had definitely not seen that coming. You always “sit” on a bean bag, who could have thought a bean bag sitting on you could be so hilarious? Just so you know, the kids spent the next hour playing turtle, turtle , with loads of giggles and fun, with the added bonus of peace and bliss for the haggard mother.
  • The Punching bag – Yes , I too empathise with the bean bag but better it than me or worse, each other!
  • The Bofa – That is , bean bag on the sofa , yes , that precarious position is possible. You will be lucky if they do that under adult supervision.
  • The bean bag couch : A couple pillows, kids tucked in with their bed sheets and there, you have a makeshift couch. Added bonus of whispered stories , giggles and yes, happiness.

So what makes them happy ? My guess, they are creative with their happiness , they have no rules for happiness. Anything can make them happy whereas only few things make them sad. Isn’t that a wonderful way to live life? Generally it is the other way around with us adults , we have such rigid rules as to what will make us happy. Anything that doesn’t conform to that makes us miserable or at the least not so happy. Continue reading →


Why I think, behind every successful person there is a great mentor?

Do you get inspired? Are the people you are inspired of, tremendously successful? Have you ever wondered what could be the one factor that made them successful apart from their personal strengths?

Dig a little into their awe-inspiring lives and you will definitely find one common thing:  The presence of one or more great Mentors.

Now, I would like to emphasize my point with a story.

Mythological stories are always paradoxically cryptic and enlightening at the same time. The first time you hear it, you may like it, probably you might even derive a moral out of it but that’s it. My intrigue is with what you learn from the rest of the times you hear or read it. The message hidden within such stories differ based on the narrator, on your mood and perception, maybe even age. It’s like those magic mirrors you might have seen in fairs, after seeing distorted images for some time you start wondering how your real image would look like. It completely shakes up your perception. Stories too do the same; they shake up your perception of reality and imagination. They for some time shrink the distance between known and unknown.

Today I learnt a new interpretation for one such story: The curse on Hanuman.

For the uninitiated Hanuman is a Hindu deity. The version of story I had until today was that Hanuman was quite naughty when he was a little boy, too unruly for the peace loving sages living near the forest where he used to try his antics. Despite multiple warnings, they couldn’t reign him in so they cursed him with amnesia of his superhuman strength, essentially where he forgets that he has superhuman strength. The sub clause of the curse was that he would remember his capability only when somebody else reminds him of his strength. This curse was apparently for his benefit, for him, to stay put till he could use it well at the appropriate time.

Now I won’t go into the bigger plot and sub plots of this story. The crux is that he was cursed to forget his strengths (Imagine how strong he must be if we feed our children saying they can be as strong(healthy) as him 🙂 ).

The new interpretation to this story that occurred to me today was this: “It’s our story! “

Half of us today are barely aware of our strengths and even if we are, we barely use it. The lucky, smart people who are aware of their strengths would have needed superb mentors to help them realize their strengths and achieve their maximum potential. Don’t you think everybody needs a mentor? Somebody to identify and remind them of their strengths? How many successful people do you know who have made it to the top alone? Without guidance, approval, inspiration and encouragement? There may be exceptions to the rule but my limited senses have not yet perceived such a person.Even gold needs to be honed for it to be purposeful.

So, if you are a person confident about your abilities mentor somebody who is not yet fully aware of his strengths and if you are one among the many who has to explore his strengths then find THE mentor.

As for the story, Jambhava reminded Hanuman of his strength and the result was an Epic.

Would like to hear your mentor stories, your super human strength stories too, if you are willing. Mentor away and let the chain of knowledge grow longer and yes, do not forget to thank your mentor. The best way to thank your teacher is by teaching somebody worthy of his teachings.